A Friendly Ghost Story

It's one of the most common and perplexing friend mysteries out there - when friends ghost friends. In this episode, we examine a contemporary real-life ghost story to see why we're so haunted. Also, a listener attempts to find the friend who got away. And finally, we offer a new way to think about friendship endings.

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Additional Resources:

Learn more about Avoidant Personality Disorder:

Avoidant Personality Research Center

Avoidant Personality Disorder: Current Insights (Psychology Research and Behavior Management)

Experts in this episode:

Kristine Dahl Sørenson is a clinical psychologist/PhD at Sorlandet Hospital HF in Norway who has studied and written about Avoidant Personality Disorder

Stephen Asma is a Professor of Philosophy at Columbia College Chicago and the author of the book "On Monsters: An Unnatural History of Our Worst Fears"

Emily Langan is an Associate Professor of Communication at Wheaton College and friendship researcher

Research featured in this episode:

Relationship dissolution in the friendships of emerging adults: How, when, and why? (Journal of Social and Personal Relationships)

Changes in personal relationships: How social contexts affect the emergence and discontinuation of relationships (Social Networks)

Special thanks to the following musicians:

Theme music by Infinity Knives

Louie Zhong

Physical Fitness

Rick Klaras

Firephly

Connor Moore of CMoore Sound

William Cashion

Tom Pile and Running Dog Music

Thin Lips: Breaking Up and Breaking Breaking Down (the friendship ending song at the end of the episode)

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